It seems that over the past few decades the rules to marriage are continuing to change with the demands of lifestyle trends set no longer catering to compatibility, financial stability, security and emotional dwelling, but on blind love and tolerances that are expanded and stretched beyond one's own ability to cope. Are women getting married just for the sake of saying, "I have a husband?" And are willing to put up with any and everything thrown their way including adultery and babies born to wome outside of the marriage? One would think this is the sad case marriage has been driven to, and the men who carelessly play on the love and affection of women just to say they have somewhere to lay their head at night, as long as they throw a few dollars their way.
Is it worth getting married to someone you fight with day in and day out with; go through one argument after another, and live in near poverty just to keep up with a man who's really going nowhere but dragging you to the poor house while he's being taken care of by someone you know is out there? It just continues to make me wonder why this is the case...a new reality that seems to be plaguing women, young and old, from all walks of life. And what's sad, too, is some of these men don't want to hook up with a woman who is not stable in her own self, meaning, she has to be taking care of herself with her means of employment, have her own car, her own place, and the means to buy her own things. I keep talking about how poor the economy is, but think about it, a man is not going for a woman who has nothing going for herself, and is simply looking for someone to give to and do for her. She's simply another bill he just can't afford.
What's interesting to me is, while the rules to marriage are continuing to change, some women have it made up in their minds that well, if I have a baby for him, things will get better. Obviously they are living in a LA-LA-LA-Land dream state of thinking that they've gotten so caught up in wanting to make the marriage that they are willing to make unnecessary sacrifices to just to keep the man who's doing them wrong every which kind of way. And it's worse if they are not working and do not have a solid income coming in, this only means that they're only recourse is to get on welfare and have the county and tax payer's dollars pay for these children.
What I think some of these blindsided women should do is wake up to real reality. That term, "I can do bad by myself," actually has a lot of truth behind that only so many women recognize and will tell you quick, "I don't need nobody broker than me." And that statement is certainly getting its rounds as there are those women who have woken up to realize if he's not living up to his end of the bargain as being husband, she's got no time to waste on waiting for him to make up his mind. Giving a man an ultimatum will only make him do one or two things...he's either going to pack his crap and get to stepping, or he's going to do a 180 degree turn and realize where he's been wrong and do everything in his power to make the relationship work.
I heard a husband on a TV reality show say, "Happy wife makes for a happy home." That rings, true, too, but not too many men are willing to live by that law, feeling that it gives the woman card blanc to just run over him like crazy, but in a controlled situation, it can work to everyone's advantage.
If getting married means fighting about every little thing, cheating, suffering from financial problems, staying out all night, arguing left and right, spying on each other, suffering from physical and/or verbal abuse -- what's the point in getting married at all? I'd rather live alone if that were the case.
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